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Member ?Join Date: Mar 2012 Posts: 45 | OK I know that this is really premature as I am not even D yet (and hope not to be but suppose I will), and I know even the thought is not productive, but, as I have been thinking about it, I just want to get it off my chest and share and maybe hear some views. OK so firstly I am 44 and have two children (3 and 6). Now in thinking about another relationship, down the line, it seems that there would be the following options: 1) A woman who is also divorced but has kids and does not want any more I might add that the age bracket I would look at is 30-35, maybe up to 40 (for various reasons). Now, basically, my current thinking is that I have two kids, and while I like kids, I would not like to start the cycle all again. I feel the time now is for me to be there for *myself* as well as my kids. But, that seems to exclude a lot of potential females who would be in my target age category but, if single, would probably want kids of their own. It seems irresponsible to become interested in someone of that category, and even fall in love, only to come up against this issue which is deal breaker. Anyway, as I started out with, I know these are not thoughts that I should be troubling myself with at this time, but they are there anyway so I thought I would share them. Your thoughts? |
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Member ?Join Date: Mar 2012 Posts: 45 | Firstly, sorry your second relationship didn't work out either! (if you would allow me to say as much without knowing anything). Quote:
Again I would just go back to the practical aspect which is, if you find someone nice, date her, but make it clear that you don't plan on any children (or actually, don't date her if you don't want to end up with a dilemma in the first place). And second thought, if you feel she is serious and you don't feel the same way (about kids that is), I think the amicable thing to do would be to let her go and seek a proper mate who has the same wishes. Well who knows, easy to say, but who knows what life may through your way! Anyway, and I digress, it is clear to me now that I am NOT in the position to date and have to take a lot of time out to be with me, my process and my thoughts (which does not mean I should not socialize, I want to, just not give anyone an illusion that something is what it is not. And by the way, no, I don't want sec for now thank you very much... ha ha). | |
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